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Told you I would meet him:

You think shes crazy about me? I've known her like 7 years. In that time there was a 3 year stretch with like no contact, and on average we seem to see each other maybe half a dozen times a year, the last few years, and like I said, last time I saw her, I badly botched my first try, at seeing if she'll catch up with me.

I call bullshit.

I am doing this for closure, and so my best platonic chick friend, who is also close friends with the girl in question will shut up about it. Of course she thinks its a good idea, I mean who don't like the idea of two of their closest friends hooking up? I called her out on it. Too be fair, I did feel like a dick after, but that just ain't how the world really works.

This is real life, not some fucking romantic comedy.

wtshnnfb01

10 years

My shrink says, my issues is I spend too much time thinking about every single possible way something could happen, and tend to focus on the worst possible outcomes.

Buttons

10 years

Originally posted by wtshnnfb01:My shrink says, my issues is I spend too much time thinking about every single possible way something could happen, and tend to focus on the worst possible outcomes.

unfortunately im the same

wtshnnfb01

10 years

Like I said, I've managed to commit myself to making an effort with her for now. Just kind of feels weird to try finally after all this time.

wtshnnfb01

10 years

I know I should do it. I honestly cant think of any good reasons not to. I just don't see much at this point coming from telling her straight up though, except closure. I'm cool with that though.

I mean everyone I've talked too agrees my logic checks out, on trying again, even though she didn't get back to me the previous time I tried to get her to catch up, but what if she actually wants nothing to do with me, and hates my guts, and I just make myself look like an asshole? I don't like coming off as desperate.

Buttons

10 years

makes sence,
just go ahead and do what you have to do but be careful how you go about things, im sure you'll be fine as long as you dont keep avoiding her or she will have no reason to want to do anything with you because of ignorance, keep the friendship and btw desparate is a major turn on for me
i have a to do list i want done
today or over the next couple of days,
i want some more photos developed for myself
i want to watch some cool movies i havent been able to see yet
i want to listen to some live u2 shows that have rare singles or songs on them
that i would like to hear
and i like to get a chance to pick up my two new pair of spectacles as soon as possible so i can see better
and i like to do these so i dont die of boredom and keeping busy is good for someone so lonely

Buttons

10 years

take my advice and treks and just do it

wtshnnfb01

10 years

What makes sense, my logic? I don't know I feel I'm trying too hard to justify doing it.

Plus if she is willing to give me a chance, I'm gonna have to have a rather awkward conversation, about why I've never tried before.

Every person I have ran it past says to try. Some know her, some don't. and the majority I have told most of if not all of the details. At the end of the day though, it all comes down to my choice.

Buttons

10 years

Like I said, I've managed to commit myself to making an effort with her for now. Just kind of feels weird to try finally after all this time.
this makes sense ^
but you should just ask her for coffee and dont over think it, let it come out naturally and stop thinking negative, the worst that can happen is she doesnt feel the same way about you but at least you find out better than missing a chance (the ones you knock back are the ones you never get)
i think your likeable but you dont expect her to fall in love with thin air do you when you make no visible possible effort, how is she supposed react to nothing at all ??
it would be as good as dead
you need to make effort light a spark you cant expect her to thrive on just hello how are you and your good looks, you need to give just as much as she does if not more being male
i know if i was in that situation i would need more attention to even start to thinking about having feelings attached
so just go ahead and do what you were going to do
dont neglect
aside from that what are your plans for today
got a to do list as well or are you too busy to be dead bored

Buttons

10 years

and let me know how it all goes, because i like a happy ending

if not i can cheer you up, im here arn't i try to help you out
im not going anywhere

wtshnnfb01

10 years

I ain't afraid of her not being interested. That's just closure. It sucks, but I can walk away fine.

I'm afraid that if I handle it right, and am not a dick about how I tell her she would at least consider giving me a chance.
I'm terrified of the idea that she could be interested, and just avoided it much as I did due to a perceived lack of interest on my part.

Closure is simple. She says she ain't interested. Either she tells me to fuck off, or we part under good terms (which I would prefer since I like talking to her in general), and we part on out ways. She says she is actively interested, or would at least consider giving me a chance, all it is to me is an invitation to fuck up.

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