well im sorry, i guess it would be nice if we could see in ones mind how they feel about us then trust would not be a stressful issue,
but i hope you discussed this with your shrink, it would be a good idea
i have nobody to talk to, and since i dont trust anybody i have no assurance so im dying inside with all the negatives that plague my mind and its killing me and my mother slowly because she dont understand, and i have no cure i think bc reading minds is beyond a reality
Lol, my shrink really thinks trying would be a good thing for me. She kept saying the girl wants to hang out with me. I kept saying, she said she would if she was asked, which is an entirely different thing. My shrink said, if she didn't want to hang with me, she would not have said, she would say yes, if she was asked.
Honestly, I know her wanting it to be a group activity, because shes socially awkward, is like consistent with everything I know about her personality type. That, and I find when women go with group activities because they aren't interested, usually the a:don't give an actual explanation, it just happens, and b:usually with women you know better, hence its a common symptom of the friend zone. Given her personality type, and the fact, I've talked to her maybe three times in the last year, the fact she would prefer a group activity don't mean she ain't interested. In fact, it may be a sign of interest if she is actually afraid about being socially awkward in front of me.
I don't care though for a simple reason. Some people are better off single. I just happen to be one of them.
There is something very noble, and poetic about knowing a girl you have liked for years, seems to be at least somewhat interested, and being willing to walk away, because you know it is the correct choice.
im glad you talked with your shrink
i dont like dido all that much either but the lyrics to that song are my life story
i dont know what real anymore but i still have to pick and choose even if i dont believe
heck im a christian but i dont even trust...authorities.....!!!! all of them, so what do you do, pray and wait anxiously with no answers on medication that already makes you anxious and fearful
well im glad you finally made a decision and is content about it you can live on
for me and my life its just a case of ''WELL YOU CAN DREAM SO DREAM OUT LOUD''
My shrink wants me to try. My best friend wants me to try. My work out buddy wants me to try. Random people I play online games with want me to try. I'm just having a hard time accepting advice from people right now, due to how it went last time, but I am trying my best to give them the benefit of the doubt. Not everyone who claims to want to help me is a liar.
I know I should try, and actually most likely will at some point. I'm just irrationally terrified. Afraid people are trying to set me up. Afraid I'm a stalker. Afraid if she gives me a chance, I'll mess up.
I really need to stop letting the past define me, when the events have nothing to do with each other. I've liked her for years. She seems at least somewhat interested, which given how rarely I see her, means if she does like me, its also most likely been for years. Why is this so complicated for me?
All I know for sure, is that she was asked if she would hang out with me, if I asked. She said yes, but would prefer having more people along because shes socially awkward one on one. Well she was not told I like her, given the context its pretty obvious, I mean usually someone ain't gonna just randomly ask in the middle of a conversation "Hey, would you hang out with Aaron, if he asked you to?", if a just friends relationship is what is being looked for. That, and I don't think most men are gonna want to hang out with a woman they don't see that often, and consider just a friend, enough that they would discuss it with one of their best friends enough, that said friend, would ask that to the girl in question. Thus since she said she would if asked, everyone I have ran it past says she sounds at least kind of interested.
Even though I am terrified by my own admission, I am gonna try. Hopefully sometime soon, since the idea is out there now, and if she is interested, I am not one to keep her waiting.
Still not sold on it being a good idea. I just know its not a bad one though.