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  1. Aaron, if you don't have her phone number, Facebook messaging her is a good idea- but be sure to leave your own number if you do. That way she knows that she has a much more personal way of getting in touch with you if she does want to talk.

    I wish you the best of luck!
  2. To give her my number or not. Honestly, for the time being, I've largely stopped seeing her as a potential object of my affection. Now first and foremost she is a friend who is down.

    Didn't seem like she was overly thrilled to see me today (although she was not hostile later), but the fact that she told me about her issues, would indicate that she sees me as someone she trust. Shes genreally the trusting type, but depression is something I would consider very personal. Alternatively she could have just been having a bad day (as someone who has had depression in the past, I can say I had days where a private U2 acoustic concert woulnd't have done anything to make me happy). I made sure to end our meeting by giving her a compliment.
  3. Originally posted by EyesWithPrideB3:Aaron, if you don't have her phone number, Facebook messaging her is a good idea- but be sure to leave your own number if you do. That way she knows that she has a much more personal way of getting in touch with you if she does want to talk.

    I wish you the best of luck!

    Good plan.
  4. Its a horrible plan.
  5. What's horrible about it? She clearly trusts you like you said. This gives her the opportunity to text you if she needs you, and if she does even just to say hello, the voila. You have her number.

    Don't jump right to whether or not she's someone whos an "object of your affection" before you can consider whether or not you can still be friends with her. One step at a time.
  6. I like thinking in one term or another. Do I like her? Yes. Do I consider helping her with her issues more important? Yes.

    She ain't the one with trust issues. I am.

    I've only ever chatted with her over facebook once. Lasted bout all of 30 seconds. Intresting thing, I realized, is that well she has never commented on anything I have posted on my wall (mostly I post things to try to annoy people) I ocasionally respond to things she post, and evidently she keeps track of my responses, as she once brought up one of them like a month after I posted it.

    I'll meet you halfway. I'll send her a message. If she gets back to me, and seems happy with me being willing to listen, I'll give her my number.

    Full disclosure: I have my cell off 95% of the time.

    If I message her, it will probally be in a day or two. I have stuff to do at this time.
  7. Its your life man, whatever works for you works for you. Just wanted to offer my two cents. I think your plan is a good one, meeting halfway.

    It's really the most you can do for her while still trying to remain somewhat objective.
  8. Its kind of personal for me. I've suffered from depression in the past, and I had no one to help me out. Basicly what happened, was I was in a bar, and had an epiphany, that I had reached rock bottom, and that if I didn't get my shit together, I was going to die, get thrown in jail, or a mental hospital if I didn't do something. That was a little over a year ago. Also almost a year to the day, before I ran into the girl in question for the first time in three years, which incidently was almost to the day since the last time I had seen her.

    I just feel this is some kind of sign I should give her the kind of help that I didn't have.

    Me getting into religion, fate, signs, etc. Now shits getting weird.

    Thankfully, I don't think she is anywhere near the level of depression I was at. Hers seems more stressed based than anything(mine was because no matter what I did I could not escape my past). Hopefully, she can figure out her issues, and get her life back on track.

    Also if you have never had any kind of depression, count your blessings, its the worst feeling in the whole fucking world.
  9. I'm predisposed to not trusting people who are predisposed to trusting people.
  10. You need to message her on Facebook. I don't know what she's said to you regarding why she is down, but you need to use that as the base for your message. Ask her how she is and be sure to show you remember what she said. "I was just thinking about you and wondered how you are. You didn't seem to be yourself least time we met." Or something like that, put into Aaron words.

    Try and draw her to reveal some details about why she is taking time off college. If she says that she is depressed, tell her that you know how she feels from your own past experiences. You don't have to open up to her about it, after all, she needs support, not you. Once she has given you enough to want to help her, message her back saying that you are there if she needs to talk. Include your number, so that if she wants to, she can call you. Also, let her know that although she is taking time off college, you're still available to meet up with her if she wants. If she likes you, she will contact you.

    Obviously we don't want to give you advice on how to win over a romantic partner by taking advantage of her health issues. Just show that you care about her. If that brings you closer as friends, great. If she starts to fall for you, great. It's unlikely that she will distance herself from you because you're concerned for her.

    You may be the escape she needs right now. Be there for her.
  11. I've been working on drafts of a first message. So far I have,

    "In regards to your stress issues, I've suffered from depression, and anxiety in the past. I know its not the same, but if you need someone to chat with, I'm available."

    Any thoughts? I feel this sounds too stiff. At the same time mental health is not something to be taken lightly. Whats a good balancing point?

    On an intresting note, even if she turns down the offer, I have a hard time picturing her being anything other than happy someone cares. I think I'm more scared if she says yes than no, because I know that even if we try to keep it about her issues, eventually mine will come up, and thats a dark road I do not want to go down at this time.
  12. I'd say switch "available" for either "here" or "here for you" and you've got yourself a winner.

    As for going down your own past, it may be a road necessary to go down in the interest of you showing enough trust in her that she'll feel comfortable talking about it with you.
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