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  1. Originally posted by fabian:Remember, the medium is the message. A facebook message means less than a sms. Make sure the medium is strong enough to send your heavy message or it will look poor.

    These are wise words.


    Sadly, as he has stated before, he doesn't have her phone number


    Anyway, see you all tomorrow
  2. I figure a private message over Facebook will be fine. Just don't post it on her wall.
  3. It will be just fine. Casual, not special.

    Stay safe everyone.
  4. Wanted to tell her today. Coulnd't find the words. Ironic for anyone who knows me.
  5. I have a tendency to play Jesus to the lepers in my head.
  6. Aaron, if you don't have her phone number, Facebook messaging her is a good idea- but be sure to leave your own number if you do. That way she knows that she has a much more personal way of getting in touch with you if she does want to talk.

    I wish you the best of luck!
  7. To give her my number or not. Honestly, for the time being, I've largely stopped seeing her as a potential object of my affection. Now first and foremost she is a friend who is down.

    Didn't seem like she was overly thrilled to see me today (although she was not hostile later), but the fact that she told me about her issues, would indicate that she sees me as someone she trust. Shes genreally the trusting type, but depression is something I would consider very personal. Alternatively she could have just been having a bad day (as someone who has had depression in the past, I can say I had days where a private U2 acoustic concert woulnd't have done anything to make me happy). I made sure to end our meeting by giving her a compliment.
  8. Originally posted by EyesWithPrideB3:Aaron, if you don't have her phone number, Facebook messaging her is a good idea- but be sure to leave your own number if you do. That way she knows that she has a much more personal way of getting in touch with you if she does want to talk.

    I wish you the best of luck!

    Good plan.
  9. Its a horrible plan.
  10. What's horrible about it? She clearly trusts you like you said. This gives her the opportunity to text you if she needs you, and if she does even just to say hello, the voila. You have her number.

    Don't jump right to whether or not she's someone whos an "object of your affection" before you can consider whether or not you can still be friends with her. One step at a time.
  11. I like thinking in one term or another. Do I like her? Yes. Do I consider helping her with her issues more important? Yes.

    She ain't the one with trust issues. I am.

    I've only ever chatted with her over facebook once. Lasted bout all of 30 seconds. Intresting thing, I realized, is that well she has never commented on anything I have posted on my wall (mostly I post things to try to annoy people) I ocasionally respond to things she post, and evidently she keeps track of my responses, as she once brought up one of them like a month after I posted it.

    I'll meet you halfway. I'll send her a message. If she gets back to me, and seems happy with me being willing to listen, I'll give her my number.

    Full disclosure: I have my cell off 95% of the time.

    If I message her, it will probally be in a day or two. I have stuff to do at this time.
  12. Its your life man, whatever works for you works for you. Just wanted to offer my two cents. I think your plan is a good one, meeting halfway.

    It's really the most you can do for her while still trying to remain somewhat objective.
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