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  1. Originally posted by wtshnnfb01:My shrink says, my issues is I spend too much time thinking about every single possible way something could happen, and tend to focus on the worst possible outcomes.
    unfortunately im the same
  2. Like I said, I've managed to commit myself to making an effort with her for now. Just kind of feels weird to try finally after all this time.
  3. I know I should do it. I honestly cant think of any good reasons not to. I just don't see much at this point coming from telling her straight up though, except closure. I'm cool with that though.

    I mean everyone I've talked too agrees my logic checks out, on trying again, even though she didn't get back to me the previous time I tried to get her to catch up, but what if she actually wants nothing to do with me, and hates my guts, and I just make myself look like an asshole? I don't like coming off as desperate.
  4. makes sence,
    just go ahead and do what you have to do but be careful how you go about things, im sure you'll be fine as long as you dont keep avoiding her or she will have no reason to want to do anything with you because of ignorance, keep the friendship and btw desparate is a major turn on for me
    i have a to do list i want done
    today or over the next couple of days,
    i want some more photos developed for myself
    i want to watch some cool movies i havent been able to see yet
    i want to listen to some live u2 shows that have rare singles or songs on them
    that i would like to hear
    and i like to get a chance to pick up my two new pair of spectacles as soon as possible so i can see better
    and i like to do these so i dont die of boredom and keeping busy is good for someone so lonely
  5. take my advice and treks and just do it
  6. What makes sense, my logic? I don't know I feel I'm trying too hard to justify doing it.

    Plus if she is willing to give me a chance, I'm gonna have to have a rather awkward conversation, about why I've never tried before.

    Every person I have ran it past says to try. Some know her, some don't. and the majority I have told most of if not all of the details. At the end of the day though, it all comes down to my choice.
  7. Like I said, I've managed to commit myself to making an effort with her for now. Just kind of feels weird to try finally after all this time.
    this makes sense ^
    but you should just ask her for coffee and dont over think it, let it come out naturally and stop thinking negative, the worst that can happen is she doesnt feel the same way about you but at least you find out better than missing a chance (the ones you knock back are the ones you never get)
    i think your likeable but you dont expect her to fall in love with thin air do you when you make no visible possible effort, how is she supposed react to nothing at all ??
    it would be as good as dead
    you need to make effort light a spark you cant expect her to thrive on just hello how are you and your good looks, you need to give just as much as she does if not more being male
    i know if i was in that situation i would need more attention to even start to thinking about having feelings attached
    so just go ahead and do what you were going to do
    dont neglect
    aside from that what are your plans for today
    got a to do list as well or are you too busy to be dead bored
  8. and let me know how it all goes, because i like a happy ending if not i can cheer you up, im here arn't i try to help you out
    im not going anywhere
  9. I ain't afraid of her not being interested. That's just closure. It sucks, but I can walk away fine.

    I'm afraid that if I handle it right, and am not a dick about how I tell her she would at least consider giving me a chance.
    I'm terrified of the idea that she could be interested, and just avoided it much as I did due to a perceived lack of interest on my part.

    Closure is simple. She says she ain't interested. Either she tells me to fuck off, or we part under good terms (which I would prefer since I like talking to her in general), and we part on out ways. She says she is actively interested, or would at least consider giving me a chance, all it is to me is an invitation to fuck up.
  10. Because I do have evidence she is either interested, or at least was at one point. Remember I said we once didn't see each other for like 3 years? She was the one who started like our first 5 or so conversations about running into each other again, when I would have been fine just ignoring the situation. She also seemed to go out of her way to talk to me a few times, and once offered to borrow me a book essentially out of the blue. Since then, we went through a stretch, where I saw her semi regular, and she didn't seem interested, but it could have been a case of the situation not being that ideal for us talking, and since then, like I said, last time I saw her, well she never got back to me, on my offer to catch up (which like I said, I botched) she was facing me most the time we talked, did not break my eye contact, and seemed she may have been blushing. She also kept a decent conversation going with me, where if she wanted to, she easily could have just shooed me thru, since she was working.
  11. yes you never know she could be the one who has thought about you deeply like his and her towels, his and her pillows, his and her home sweet home but it fades if you dont fuel it, so you need to make more of a showing, and by the sounds of things you have had good feed back from her friends and dont forget she could be a person very busy or have various problems like yourself and needs some release and you might just be the answer but a faded one
    for all you know she could have once thought about you alot everyday but in time could have faded since you make no showing
    from what i know she is family orientated like you said, people like that are in for the long haul and fall in love with commitment in mind and you say her friends have told you you should try well thats saying something
    if you dont do anything and not feed that fire, its going to burn out
    so do it and be positive and if she says yes you could only !@#$ it up if you dont feel anything for her
    sposed to get my to do list done but honestly dont feel like leaving my bed today..lol too tired i have the best bed aside from the dog hair on it lol
  12. Two mutual friends. One is among the closest friends of both me and her. Like I said, I called her out on it, because who don't like the idea of their dorky friends hooking up?
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